when this happen, i can't wait it to over

xpasal2 aku kne cold shoulder. taula exam, sume org tension, yg g lepas kat aku tu spe suh. punyala dasyat cold shoulder tu, sampai pe2 pun xnak citer kt aku. yg best part, diorg slumber tunjuk xnak study dkt2 ngan aku. yg lagi best part diorg gelak sme2, aku je cam terpinggir. yg lagi lagi best, part aku kene ulang soalan smpi 2 kali baru nak jawab, mungkin sebab banyak sgt menghafal telah menyebabkan otak korang menjadi sangat lembap(ha, hamik ko!!)..eee geramnye aku time tu, geram plus dispointed. yeah, sgt dispointed. aku pun tension gak, korang treat aku camgitu lagi aku tension. Alhamdulilah, aku manage control everything. diorg xde, lagi senang aku nk menghafal, xde lah aku dgr bunyi org mumbling hafal.kalo diorg ade pun, aku kan hafal kuat2, padahal aku lagi prefer hfl pelan2 je, tapi saje nak sakitkan hati org. nak syoh2 people away. Last day, Asyraf sleep over, at least aku de teman lawan cakap n penyakit insomia aku sbelum exam dimanipulatekan untuk kiteorg berbual2 sepuas2nya. btw, despite all things, at least they still show mercy to me. Look at the bright sight, I get things I wanted, I just lose some fun times. that's all. Anyway girls, thank for making our goodbye is easy. I just have enough. owh, you all just injured my feeling tau.

Looking back, i encounter this many times.meet people, say hi, fake smile, fake laugh, share foods, tells secret, play jokes, true smile, true laugh, accepting advice, start to criticize, betrayer, show off, jealousy, undermined, cold-shoulder, crying, fake laugh again, fake smile again, say goodbye, leave people. wish that we never meet again as we don't have nothing to say and i just hate awkwardness. think i'm the one who lose? sometime i feel like that too. However, the good thing about move on is you'll find someone better if..you move on on a right direction. You will meet better people who give more inspiration to you and willing to stand on your back. the most important thing is you're now become more matured and knows how to react reasonably toward peer pressure. like i tell you before, my best friends never last longer enough. They all have their own dateline. That sometime make me uneasy toward the beginning of searching new friend. we can't know who suit to us. what i can do is to just blindly pick and bring up the good things in people. And if you want to believe me, i'm very good in communicate, i just know how to dig secret,plead and confront others, what u need to give me is a chance. When i got my chance, you're in bestfren.

the bad resort of all these, you cant count for your ex-bestfren to do thing you want to do. they're now longer in the list of "people who willing to help me for nothing". and sometimes even worst you're not in the their list of "people who can be invite to my party". Take me for example, I dont have any people in the list for be my bride maid huhuhu :'(. actually, this is still a small matter as i don't have a my groom yet.

I, J, K....heheh

A wife asked her husband to describe her …..

He said, ‘You’re A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, I, J, K’.

She said, ‘What does that mean?’

He said: Adorable, Beautiful, Cute, Delightful, Elegant, Foxy, Gorgeous, Hot’.


She said: ‘Oh that’s so lovely. What about I, J, K ?

He said: I‘m Just Kidding…..!!!

3 method to achieve a good character

Assalamualaikum  and thank you  sister solehah,

As you can see in the slide provided, there are 3 methods to achieve good character. There are divine generosity, habituation and association. Please help me to correct the slide provided to you.

Let us see to the first method, that is divine generosity.  First you should understand that Divine mean God and divine generosity is the generous of god. One can possess good character naturally when he got divine generosity or in Arabic term bitt-t-ab wal al-fitra. They are so created that all the faculties of their souls are in equilibrium and their faculties of desire and anger obey the dictates of reason and syaria. Some examples of these types of peoples are the prophets. Prophet muhammad s.a.w is an ideal personality. The akhlak of rasululah will be explained further by sister Baizura. Even though,divine genority is only given to the prophets, we should never forget people other than prophets may also posses good character by using habituation and association.

Let us proceed to the second method that is habituation. There are three important key words in habituation. The first is mujahadah, motivation, second is riyadah, self-training and the last one is itiyad, habit.  To start of habituation, one should have strong motivation and wills to take pain to engage generous action. It can be such as giving away some particular possession until it becomes a kind of second nature to him. If he feel pleasure to perform it, it mean he had achieved itiyad, habituation.

In the month of ramadhan, we can apply this concept in performing solat terawih. There is one girl who doesn’t like to perform solat terawih. Since she celebrate fasting month in uia, she had be forced by her roommate to perform solat terawih. First, she feels reluctant to perform it. Lastly, toward the end of the month when her roommate no longer force her, she herself feel she want to do it. It show she had reach habituation in achieving good character.

The last method is association. We can acquire good character by observation of good people and association with them. As we all know, man is by nature imitative. When they mix with good people, they will be influenced to be good and when they mix with bad people, they will be influenced to be bad. This is supported by a hadith that mention, the prophet sait “the similitude of good company and bad company is like the one who sell perfume and iron smith. The one who sell perfume will offer it to you, sell it to you or you will smell nice of it whereas iron smith will burn your cloth or you will smell bad.  The best example is children. If the children are raise in bad environment, they will have a bad akhlak. Therefore, there must be enforcement of law. So that, we can push the children to instill a good akhlaq until it become a habit.

            In conclusion, people can instill good character by divine generousity, habituation and association. As a true muslim, we should always bear in mind that we have given a wide freedom of choice but we should always choose a right thing. Thus, the implemention of good character is necessary throughout the life as a muslim.

TQ